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  • Zoom Party Ideas

    Our Christmas Tree

    My son just had his birthday party via zoom, so here are some zoom party ideas as we continue in quarantine. I’ve also had some adult zoom cocktail parties.

    • play Mafia over zoom
    • scavenger hunt
    • Netflix watch party (no further explanation needed)

    Mafia

    Have you ever heard of the game Mafia? We used to play it late at night when we were staying over with a group of friends at a country house. Back when we did that.

    Here are the instructions. I put the names of the guests on paper slips in one bowl and the various roles (mafia or murderer, villager, doctor, detective) in the other bowl. Then I matched every guest with a role and direct-messaged them via zoom. I was the narrator, but actually the boys all really wanted to be the narrator so they could create different scenarios of how people died. I thought the boys would probably prefer to play Among Us (which seems to be the online game equivalent), but not all the boys were allowed to play it, so I did it the zoom way. It worked. We added in other characters inspired by Among Us: the Angel (can tell the narrator one person to protect — if the murderer picks them to kill, they don’t die; the clown (pretends to be the murderer).

    Scavenger Hunt

    So this game was inspired by my son’s gym teacher. He has them do a scavenger hunt for household items, which makes the kids run around the house like mad.

    I decided to add a riddle component. So I used some of these riddles for toothbrush and book (items they’d be sure to have around the house) and also came up with my own.

    I am soft. This item is not a hat. I don’t go on your hand. I slip over your foot. What am I?

    Answer: Sock

    #

    I roll, but I’m not a ball.

    I’m paper, but you don’t write on me

    What am I?

    Answer: Toilet paper

    #

    You rest your head on me

    Answer: Pillow

    One child unfortunately couldn’t go into the bathroom because someone is his family was using it, which was tough, given that I gave riddles for toothbrush and toilet paper as items they’d be sure to have around the house. 🙁

    Zoom Party Ideas Summary

    Several parents emailed to thank me and say their children really enjoyed the party. I think the bar is low at the moment and I just occupied their children for two hours.

    Happy Holidays!

    Happy Holidays whatever you celebrate! I hope you had a wonderful Hannukah and have a wonderful Christmas!

    We are busy making Christmas cookies. My favorite Christmas cookie recipe is gingerbread people (reduced fat!) from the Joy of Cooking. I have yet to find a sugar cookie recipe I really love, so if you have one, please share!

    The cookies are quickly disappearing.

    In other exciting news, my first MS Partner Pursuit was the winner of the Hudson County RWA 25-4-25 contest, and the first twenty pages of my second MS Is This for Real? just placed third in the RWA Windy City Four Seasons contest.

    Let’s Talk

    Do you have any good zoom party ideas? What are some of your favorite holiday traditions?

    Happy Holidays!

  • Romantic Comedy Book Recommendations For Gifts

    Christmas Shopaholic in a Mini Bookstore

    Here are my romantic comedy book recommendations and some of my favorite children’s books if you are looking for gifts for the holidays.

    Romantic Comedy Book Recommendations for Gifts

    All of these books made me laugh out loud. There are many light-hearted, feel-good moments, but they also touch on serious issues. (This is in addition to my recommendations in my earlier post.)

    Some Favorite Children’s Books

    • The Book with No Pictures by B.J. Novak
    • Corduroy by Don Freeman
    • Elephant and Piggy by Mo Willems (or anything by Mo Willems)
    • Hippos Go Berserk by Sandra Boynton (or anything by Sandra Boynton)
    • Is there a Dog in this Book? by Viviane Schwarz

    There are frankly so many children’s books that I love, but I like to give the above as gifts. I’ve read both The Book with No Pictures and Is There a Dog in this Book? to my son’s class, and the kids laugh and love them. For older elementary kids, I recommend Dog Man and anything by Rick Riordan.

    I love the dedication in Hippos Go Berserk: I didn’t invite them. Did you invite them? (For Mom and Dad, with love.)”

    Favorite Non-RomCom Book

    My favorite non-romcom book was Queenie by Candice Carty-Williams. It does get very dark and I had to put it down a few times because I was like “noooo!” But it has a happy ending and I was strongly rooting for the character of Queenie. And the voice is very funny. (It is also quite explicit.)

    It won the British Book Awards, among others.

    What do you recommend?

    Do you have any recommendations? What romantic comedies have you read in the past year and loved? Why? What children’s books do you give as gifts?

  • Dollhouse Project for Kids

    Wouldn’t you like to curl up and read here? You just need to be 1/12 size.

    If you are looking for a fun project to make with the kids while #stayingathome, building a dollhouse is a great project for ages 7 and up (or any age, depending on your kid). This Serendipity Shed is from the HBS/Miniatures site, but in the UK, there are many great online dollshouse stores as well, such as DollsHouse Emporium.

    In New York City, parents volunteer to make an art project with their child’s class to sell at the school auction to benefit the public school. I volunteered to make this dollhouse library with my son’s third grade class. The class parents volunteered as well thankfully. And it sold!

    Dollhouse Library from the Outside

    Making the Dollhouse Kit

    What you will need:

    • the dollhouse kit
    • acrylic paint in your choice of colors
    • wood glue
    • door handles (if you decide you want to add those) (also from HBS/Miniatures)
    • masking tape or painters tape
    • sandpaper
    • recommended glue to put in window panes

    The kit comes with instructions. So first, read the instructions. Second, dry-fit the kit, so you know how it fits together before you glue it with wood glue. Then I recommend gluing together the walls and the floor. Then paint the partial structure and the various pieces (like the windows) in your chosen colors. For the class, we painted all the the pieces separately because I needed activities for around 25 kids. Then glue it together. And Voila! You have a little dollhouse.

    Dollhouse Project for Kids

    My son’s class made everything in this dollhouse except for the bookshelves. (And that metal lamp). I bought the back one at #HBS/Miniatures. And I made the side bookshelves with popsicle and stirrer sticks and carboard, and then painted it white. We xeroxed/reduced the covers of their chosen favorite books. As you can see, Harry Potter and 13stories are favorites. And they glued the books together (cut up magazines serve as the inside pages).

    Dollhouse Library Project for Kids

    The kids painted the walls white and the windows blue. (I did have to sand the window openings because I forgot to tell them to paint lightly there, so that the window fit inside.) They made the couch using a cardboard tea box and covering it with cotton balls and fabric and and then gluing it with fabric glue. (No sewing required.) And they made the plants by painting twisty ties green and then putting those in air-dry clay (covered with tea for dirt). We used bottle caps as planters.

    If you and/or your child really enjoy this project, it’s a whole new world. There are so many videos on Youtube to watch!

    Let’s Talk

    How are you doing? Hope you are all doing well and #stayingsafe! We are all fine. We have been inside for a month. I received back a developmental edit on Partner Pursuit, so I was busy this week revising my MS accordingly.

  • Some Stay-at-Home NYC Mommy Tips

    Bright and Cheery Yellow Flowers left outside our apartment door by my neighbor

    Here are some Stay-at-Home NYC Mommy Survival Tips. We’ve now been in our NYC apartment for 14 straight days, although we luckily have a small balcony for fresh air.

    Overall, we’re lucky. We’re healthy and we just have to stay inside to help flatten the curve. I worry for the medical personnel, the postal workers, the grocery workers, the warehouse workers, the delivery workers and all the rest who are out there working as heroes.

    List of Stay-At-Home NYC Mommy Survival Tips

    • Exercise
    • Keep a Schedule
    • Art and Virtual Tours
    • Food
    • Reading/Watching Movies
    • Crafting and Making Masks
    • Keep Social
    • Keep washing hands

    If you have any suggestions, please share!

    Exercise

    Exercise is important for your immune system and your sanity. I haven’t done enough, but I will keep trying.

    For Kids:

    Create Your Own Obstacle Course: This has been the most successful exercise activity to date. My kids and I each take turns creating an obstacle course throughout the house and then we each follow each other doing it. We run around chairs, climb onto chairs, run around a table, crawl under a table, jump over stuffed animals etc. (Luckily, our neighbors are very nice and have not complained about the amount of extra noise as we jump around.)

    It definitely gets the heart rate up and adds a little extra fun.

    Step up onto the chair, then scoot over the table, then back down on the other side. Do jumping jacks. I think you get the idea 🙂

    GoNoodle and PE with Joe Wicks: We’ve also been doing some dance videos from GoNoodle and P.E. with Joe Wicks.

    For Moms/Dads:

    I am trying out Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s trainer’s workout book. My friend gave it to me last year.

    The RBG Workout by Bryant Johnson

    Another friend recommended this site for Yoga: Dharma Yoga New York Center.

    Keep A Schedule

    I think that it helps the kids to have a schedule. So we have our homeschooling schedule, and to that we’ve added Lunch Doodles with Mo Willems, Exercise and Duolingo (they are trying to learn Danish).

    Art

    I still highly recommend Lunch Doodles with Mo Willems. He’s very therapeutic to watch.

    And he gives writing advice.

    Here is my doodle from Episode 3.

    This New York Times article also lists other authors/artists giving programs, so I am excited to try some of those.

    Virtual Art Tours: I’m excited to go on some virtual art museum tours and other virtual tours.

    TAKE VIRTUAL TOURS
    The J. Paul Getty Museum
    The Hermitage
    Museum of Miniatures (Carmel, IN)
    The Louvre
    The Sistine Chapel
    Rijksmuseum
    Listen to commentary about the dollhouse at Rijksmuseum
    The Guggenheim
    Yosemite
    National Park
    Van Gogh Museum
    Great Wall of China
    Smithsonian National Museum of Natural History
    Yellowstone National Park
    Museum of Modern Art (MoMA)
    British Museum
    Monticello (Thomas Jefferson’s home)
    Cliffe Castle
    The Uffizi Gallery
    Westminster Abbey
    and a list of 1,200 more museums to explore 

    Food

    I made a shopping list of all our usual food so that when I find a delivery slot open, I can check the list and order from it, otherwise I keep forgetting items. I do spend a lot of time looking for open delivery slots.

    A HUGE thanks to all the grocery workers and delivery people.

    Bread: This is also a great recipe for whole wheat bread from Minimalist Baker. I can’t find yeast available anymore (and flour is also hard to find), but I have some packs left and maybe by the time I use them up, yeast will be back in stock.

    Whole wheat bread rolls – yummy!

    Books/Movies

    I am so grateful for all the books that I can escape into. I may actually make some progress on my #TBR pile. And I’m also watching movies at night, rather than always reading the news.

    Crafting and Making Masks

    I like to craft to keep up my spirits and so I’ve been doing some crafting, in between home schooling, reading and writing.

    I found some patterns/tutorials for making masks, so I think I will try to do that too, although I am not very good at sewing and haven’t yet learned to use a sewing machine. It’s been on my bucket list, so I will check out some Youtube videos and learn to do it. I have a tiny kid sewing machine. It’s a Home EC project for the kids too! At the least, my family can wear my attempts, and hopefully, the shortage of PPE will be addressed. If I get good at making them, then I can send them to a hospital.

    Keep Social

    I am using this time to catch up with friends, so I hope you do too. Try to reach out to a friend every day or other day. My kids are doing zoom/facetime chats with their friends and that makes them happy.

    Let’s Talk about Your Stay-At-Home Mommy Survival Tips

    Do you have any tips for staying-at-home (with or without kids)? Any suggestions for laugh-out-loud romcom books?

    Also, please keep washing your hands (and not touching your face). But it seems to transmit from when you touch someone or something with the virus and then you touch your face, so wash your hands before you touch your face. Which is so hard for me. As soon as I can’t touch my face, something on my face itches. Even writing this, I have an itch on my eyelid. And obviously practice social distancing and stay home as much as you can.

    And if you’re not in an area that is yet in lockdown, I recommend stocking up on pantry staples (like flour, pasta etc.) and kids art supplies. You can get kids art supplies delivered, but you want to minimize people delivering (for their sake and yours).

    Wishing you all the best!

  • A Matisse Art Lesson for My Son’s Class

    Exhibition Matisse at the Museum of Modern Art in New York – 1992

    Volunteering to Teach an Art Lesson/Project on Matisse

    I thought I’d share my proposed Matisse Art Lesson/Project lesson for my son’s class. My son is in public elementary school, and this year, his school lost its art teacher due to budget cuts. The teacher asked for any parent volunteers to teach an art class. I love modern art (see https://kathystrobos.com/about-me/ ). So I volunteered to teach an art class on Henri Matisse, ending with the kids doing a cut-outs art project, following the Drawing with Scissors art lesson plan. Several other moms also offered to help, so thankfully I won’t be alone.

    It’s only a 50 minute class, so ultimately that’s not that much time. (Or that could be a REALLY REALLY long time if it all goes bottoms up.) I want to do a little bit on Matisse and then let the kids “draw with scissors” to make art imitating Matisse’s Cut-Outs. I am still working on my lesson plan but I thought I’d share it here in case other parents are looking for an art lesson for their kids or for a class. Or in case anyone has any advice.

    It was hard to pick which paintings to show the children as part of the art lesson. As expected, Matisse painted a lot of naked people, so I wanted to find some non-naked drawings. Since Matisse is one of my favorite artists, I bought the Museum of Modern Art Matisse Exhibition book from the retrospective in 1992. I also borrowed Art Book Matisse by Gabrielle Crepaldi from the New York Public Library.

    So here’s the first draft of the lesson plan. I think we can spend 15 -20 minutes on the art history and then have 30 minutes for the art project.

    Art Lesson on Matisse the Artist

    Matisse was born in northern France in 1869. He trained to be a lawyer but took up painting while recovering from appendicitis.

    He went to Paris to study art at the Academie Julian and he apprenticed to another painter Gustave Moreau.

    This picture from Drawing with Scissors shows one of his first paintings (a stack of books). It also shows one of his last pictures, so you can see the evolution in style.

    Shows the evolution of his art from one of his first paintings to one of his last works of art
    From Drawing with Scissors by Keesia Johnson and Jane O’Connor, illustrated by Jessie Hartland

    Fauvism

    In 1905, there was a radical change in his work. While in the South of France, he began to paint with bright, clashing colors. “Honor every color without sacrificing a single one,” wrote Matisse.

    This style was eventually called Fauvism, after a critic called Matisse and other artists painting in this manner “fauves”, which in French means “wild beasts.”

    Here’s one painting showing this new painting style.

    The Roofs of Collioure by H. Matisse (summer-autumn 1905)

    Matisse said that Fauvism was construction by means of color. He said that the art should convey the artist’s response to his subject. What do you think Matisse was feeling when he painted the above? Why? (If no one answers, I would say happy because he used bright colors.)

    Matisse’s painting style continued to change, but he always remained true to bold color.

    The Influences of Travel and Geometry in Matisse’s Work

    Matisse traveled a lot and he was influenced by his travels to those different areas/countries (Russia, Morocco, and Asia).

    Another element to look for in his paintings is Geometry (he has lots of shapes) and Nature. Let’s look at some of his paintings and see whether we can identify any geometric or nature elements.

    Harmony in Red by H. Matisse in 1908

    What do you notice about this painting? There’s part of a rectangle (a geometric element). And there are a lot of decorative elements; it looks like there are vines crawling all around the room. The red is also very intense. It looks like there is a table but it almost flat. An interesting fact is that the large canvas was initially painted in green and the painting was called Harmony in Green. Then Matisse painted over it in blue and called it Harmony in Blue. An art collector bought it. Then Matisse changed his mind again, before delivering it, and re-painted it red. (See Art Book Matisse by Gabriele Crepaldi (Dorling Kindersley) at p. 60).

    Goldfish by Matisse 1911

    What do you notice about this painting? I see a lot of circular shapes. Also plants (nature) and again bright colors. What do you feel when you see this painting? It’s one of my favorites.

    The Piano Lesson by H. Matisse 1916

    What do you see in this painting? I see a lot of triangles. The metronome is echoed in the boy’s face and the window. Also compare this to Harmony in Red – what is similar again? The swirls in the ironwork of the window remind me of the vines in Harmony in Red.

    As an aside for adults, according to the Matisse Art Book, “critics have read symbolic significance into the scene, identifying the opposing elements of the creative process with emotional, irrational intuition on one side, and on the other side, deliberate rationality.” (Art Book Matisse by Gabriele Crepaldi, at p. 79). I can see that in the art sculpture in the lower left hand corner versus the woman sitting stiffly in the upper right background. It’s the tick of the metronome versus the expressive music emerging from the piano in the black swirls.

    Matisse’s Cut-Outs

    Exhibition Matisse (Henri Matisse: A Retrospective, The Museum of Modern Art, New York, at p. 412

    In 1946, Matisse was nearly 80 years old, and painting and carving sculptures had become increasingly difficult for him. He found a new opportunity for expression in making cutouts. Let’s read Matisse’s Garden. (It depends on time if I can read this to them, but I read it to my children as practice and they were inspired to make the cut-out art after listening, so it seemed effective.)

    Matisse’s Garden by Samantha Friedman, Illustrations by Cristina Amodea

    Drawing with Scissors Art Lesson

    I found this amazing book, Drawing with Scissors, with a free art project lesson plan (http://creativityconnection.fabercastell.com/henri-matisse-art-lesson/ ) (available at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/044842519X/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1). So we will then follow the art project lesson plan (although it recommends 2 45-minute classes). My children wanted to use pencils and I told them they had to use scissors to draw.

    The Museum of Modern Art also includes a section on Matisse in its Family Guide. I am going to include their advice for arranging the shapes in my Matisse art lesson for my son’s class. See https://www.moma.org/momaorg/shared/pdfs/docs/learn/Education_FamilyGuide_Singles.pdf On page 18, they advise finding Matisse’s The Swimming Pool. Then they ask kids to rip out shapes and arrange them on the next page. “Experiment with placing your shapes close together, far apart, overlapping, and in different directions.” (at p. 19). There’s also this cool video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rke7RmxwfY by the MoMA.

    So anyway, we will see if this works or if it all looks like the contents of the recycling bin, as one mom said. Lol.

    Any advice on creating a Matisse art lesson for my son’s elementary school class? Are there any artists that you like that are good for elementary school classes? Who are your favorite artists?

    Update: The kids loved it. And the art looked amazing! The teacher allowed them to do it again during their free time on Friday. Also I highly recommend using the craft pattern scissors available at craft stores or on Amazon as well as regular scissors.

  • Where do you hide your holiday presents?

    Taking advice from Edgar Allen Poe’s The Purloined Letter (Hide it in plain sight)

    Where do you hide your holiday presents? We live in a New York City apartment, so hiding spaces are few (even for when you play hide-and-seek, as you do with kids).

    And we are using all almost our space. We have  even put in storage space abover our bathroom ceiling. That’s one of the main places I hide presents. You need a ladder to get up there, so it’s not easily accessible.

    However, even my main hiding spots are beginning to fill up. My usual spot in the basement is storing toys which haven’t been played with in awhile. But they are in the purgatory period – will my son notice that they have disappeared? If not, in six months, we can donate them. (Not that that always works.)

    But I’ve found a new spot. Can you spot the hidden presents?

    Where would you hide them in this closet?

    Feel free to post your guess below. (I can use that next year in case my daughter reads this article).

    The presents are in the laundry bags! (And yes, I have a lot of black clothes. And my closet looks nothing like The Container Store closets or any designed closets. :).  Although I do love the Container Store plastic boxes and highly recommmend those.

    My tip is to wrap the presents in case they are found.

    And then the key is to remember where you hid them.  I often forget where I’ve put the presents if I deviate from my usual spaces. When I am older, I  plan to spend December hiding presents for myself, so I can spend the rest of the year finding my presents 🙂

    Have a great weekend! Where do you hide your holiday presents? And how do you remember where you hid them?