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  • Tips for Writing the RomCom Video

    Here’s a short video of my talk with tips for writing the RomCom (romantic comedy) from the Chicklit & Prosecco writer festival. It’s about 11 minutes long, but it certainly felt like longer when I was talking 🙂

    I hope you enjoy this Tips for Writing the RomCom video! Also, check out this post with tips.

    Video talk on Tips for Writing the Romantic Comedy

    Let’s Talk

    I hope things are going well wherever you are. New York City is starting to feel like its old self again, especially with all the restaurants sheds in the street for open air dining.

    NYC: Restaurant sheds in the street for open air dining

    It feels like a party walking down the street at night because there are so many people sitting in the restaurants.

    It is so hot in New York right now, and the sky is starting to darken like a thunderstorm is going to hit.

    I am working on my third novel and watching romantic comedies at nights for inspiration (and tips). I’m also still working on my first two novels. I’ve also continued my workout regime of bicycling while watching a Korean drama, and that’s definitely working for me, although it’s slow progress. And if you do like Korean dramas, I recommend checking out this dramabeans site for summaries and comments (which also give tips for writing romcoms). But they’re so addictive that I definitely get on the bicycle every day to watch my next episode!

    What are your plans for the summer?

  • CRASH LANDING ON YOU and Doing for Each Other

    Movie Poster for Crash Landing on You

    Definitely my favorite movie of the pandemic is CRASH LANDING ON YOU, but I also think it epitomizes how to show romance by each giving, doing for each other, and taking care of the other. The romance is so good, as is the comedy and the drama. It’s written by female screenwriter Park Ji-Eun.

    I am taking a Gotham Screenwriters Course with Doug Katz, and he gave some great advice on my scene sequence (which is a romantic comedy, of course):

    • What do they each do for the other? As an example, he said, look at how Katharine Hepburn takes out the splinters from Humphrey Bogart’s foot in THE AFRICAN QUEEN.
    • What does he need that she can do for him? What does she need that he can do for her?
    • Give them conflict as to what each like to do (i.e., he likes eating sushi, she doesn’t).

    As in all romantic comedies, how will they change each other unexpectedly? As Billy Mernit writes in Writing the Romantic Comedy,

    “Create two incompletes who complete each other, seeming opposites who unite in a belief that love comes first–that’s the key to crafting a chemical equation that will set off sparks.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy by Billly Mernit at p. 155

    Park Ji-Eun definitely achieves that with Yoon Se-ri (played by Son Ye-jin) and Jeong-hyeok (played by Hyun Bin). Happy sigh.

    CRASH LANDING ON YOU and Doing for Each Other

    In the first scene where we see Yoon Se-ri and Captain Ri Jeong-hyeok meet, Yoon Se-ri lands on North Korean Captain Ri. She tells him that she was paragliding and there was a storm and she landed here in North Korea by accident. Eventually, he tells Se-ri how to get back to South Korea. But can she trust him? He also gives her advice on how to avoid the landmines.

    What does she do for him? She makes him smile. He has resolved not to be happy and not to care about anyone again since the death of his brother. But, as he overhears her on her walkie-talkie trying to reach her employees to be rescued (promising them bonuses), he smiles.

    In their next scene together, he whisks her inside his yard, saving her from being spotted by the State Security Department.

    While he tries to remain closed and aloof, she chats to him and keeps asking questions.

    How do they complete each other?

    Both teach each other to love and to care about each other—to open up to another person and not to remain closed off emotionally or socially. I particularly love the lyrics of the Flower song: “So, I am worried about you,” but the whole soundtrack is amazing.

    Giving and Conflict

    In another early scene, Captain Ri carefully prepares noodles for Yoon Se-ri from scratch. So, we could have a scene without any conflict where she happily eats the noodles. But what happens instead? Se-ri is worried that the food is poisoned and wants him to try it first. “But in the South, this is what we do. When you are eating at someone else’s house, the guest usually offers the first bite to the host.” He gets offended that she thinks the food is poisoned. This follows Doug’s third point about how to create conflict even when they are giving to each other. She tries to negotiate with him, saying she will repay any kindness. Eventually, he takes away the food, saying he won’t show her any kindness.

    Let’s Talk

    Image of Women laughing while sharing food

    Anyway, I highly recommend CRASH LANDING ON YOU, but I must warn you that it’s highly addictive. It feels like every scene ends on a cliffhanger. It’s directed in such a way that we revisit scenes and get more information, almost as if from a different POV in that scene. Close friends have now recommended THE DESCENDANTS and BOYS OVER FLOWERS. But I also need to write :), so I’m actually worried about starting another K-drama.

    Have you seen CRASH LANDING ON YOU? If so, what is your favorite part? And if not, what movies or books do you recommend?

    Here’s hoping that spring is just around the corner as I sit here typing, the sun streaming in my window.

  • The Family As Antagonist in RomComs

    the Big Sick Movie poster
    THE BIG SICK Movie Poster

    Ok, so we all know that in romantic comedies, the Antagonist is the lover-to-be, but to kick up the conflict, many RomComs use the Family as the Antagonist. That may be in addition to the alternate suitor–or the Bellamy as discussed in previous posts.

    How the Family is the Antagonist in RomComs

    How can the family be the antagonist or contribute to the conflict?

    • The family is opposed to the relationship (for example, for religious reasons in THE BIG SICK)
    • they hate the lover-to-be because of past history (THE BIG SICK)
    • the family is so lovable that the protagonist falls in love with the family and doesn’t want to hurt them by revealing the truth or deceive them any further (see THE PROPOSAL or WHILE YOU WERE SLEEPING)
    • they like the lover-to-be and push the couple together–helpful if it’s enemies-to-lovers (see THE PROPOSAL or even NEVER HAVE I EVER when the mom invites Ben over for dinner)
    • the family is so horrible that it creates sympathy for a character (see Ben in NEVER HAVE I EVER and prior post discussing this)
    • the family is the backstory that propels the internal conflict

    THE BIG SICK – the Family Antagonist

    THE BIG SICK by Amazon Studios

    I highly recommend THE BIG SICK. SPOILERS below. Let’s see how it uses the family as one of the main antagonists. Kumail and Emily meet at a comedy club after his comedy act.

    Kumail’s family is initially the antagonist because they don’t support his marrying anyone outside the Muslim faith. They keep setting him up with Muslim women in order to find him a suitable wife. And they make clear at the dinner table that marrying outside the faith will lead to ostracism.

    But Kumail is falling for Emily. Conflict.

    Emily finds out he hasn’t told his family about her and that he doesn’t see how he can marry her because he doesn’t want to lose his family. They break up.

    The roommates call him to sit with her at the hospital because she is very sick. He has to authorize putting her in a coma to try to save her. So, now Emily is out of the picture. What can the film do?

    Her family arrives at the hospital. And her family becomes the antagonist. The mom HATES him because he broke her daughter’s heart. (The father is not too keen on him either, but he feels bad for him.) And so for the middle of the movie, it’s the relationship between Kumail and her parents which is center stage.

    And then when Emily wakes up, the conflict is back between her and Kumail.

    THE PROPOSAL

    The Proposal Movie Poster
    The Proposal Movie Poster

    I just re-watched THE PROPOSAL and enjoyed it so much. It has so many great one-liners and set-pieces. I highly recommend it.

    Here, the family heightens the stakes–the mom and the grandmother by pushing them together and the father by trying to separate them.

    Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds visit his family in “Alaskaaa” (to imitate how Sandra Bullock says it when she hears that’s where he’s from).

    The mom and the grandmother push to hear how Ryan Reynolds proposed to Sandra Bullock, push for them to kiss and then insist they get married . . . TOMORROW. They also adopt workaholic Sandra Bullock and take her along on various female field trips. They cause Sandra Bullock to have doubts about going through with the fake marriage.

    ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE

    Always be My Maybe movie poster
    ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE movie poster

    In ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE , another one of my favorite movies, Marcus uses his mom’s death and his father being alone as the reason why he has to stay in San Francisco and why he is mired in his current circumstances. And part of Sasha’s journey is to reconcile with her parents, who worked nonstop when she was a kid leaving her to eat dinners alone at home until she was invited over to his family’s house for dinner where his mom taught her how to cook. So, in ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE, the family history is the backstory that propels the internal conflicts of the characters.

    Let’s Talk

    How are you doing? Have you seen any of these movies? What are some of your favorite lines or moments? Are there other movies that you can think of where the family is the antagonist in the romcom?

    Happy Holidays to All! And here’s to a much better 2021!

  • Never Have I Ever RomCom Tips

    I highly recommend Mindy Kaling’s Never Have I Ever and here are some takeaway romcom tips. If you haven’t watched it, watch it before you read below. It will make you laugh, cry, swoon and feel good at the end. Spoilers alert.

    The Flawed Protagonist

    One of the most brilliant things about Mindy Kaling’s Never Have I Ever is the character of Devi Vishwakumar, who is definitely flawed, but so appealing that you’re immediately rooting for her. She has a temper, which is why John McEnroe is her narrator (brilliant casting). She storms out on her friend Eleanor when she finds out Eleonor is dating someone and didn’t tell her, and then angrily throws a book out the window, breaking the window, admits that she’s jealous of her beautiful cousin Kamala. . . and this is all in the pilot episode. As she admits, she does not take the high road. She’s also refreshingly honest.

    She’s also vulnerable and hurting because she idolized her father and he just died. And their scenes together always bring me near tears.

    She’s also incredibly determined. Joining the hot boys lunch table takes guts.

    And I love the whole Indian-American cultural aspect, especially the mom’s comments about America. Maitreyi Ramakrishnan is an amazingly talented actress.

    The Love Triangle

    First kiss between Devi and Paxton
    First Kiss

    Never Have I Ever has a well-done romantic triangle. There’s the hot, but sensitive jock (Paxton Yoshida) vs. the nerdy smart guy (Ben Gross). And normally I would be all for the nerdy smart guy, but he was so awful in the beginning that I couldn’t get over that, especially because of his UN comment and how mean he is when he’s doing the school project with her friends.

    Paxton is also very sweet. And I like that he doesn’t drink at parties during swim season. I liked how he apologized and was there for her on multiple occasions.

    • when he comes over to her house to apologize that he wrongly freaked out about her meeting his sister. (He is very protective of his sister.) And he gives that glance back after they part.
    • when she gets bitten by the coyote and he rushes out to pick her up and take her to hospital. (And then her mom is so mean to him.)
    • When he tells her “you do you.” Which is kind of like Colin Firth’s statement “I like you just the way you are” in Bridget Jones.
    • and the kiss in the car (which he even tells his sister about).

    So, I will admit that I am Team Paxton and not Team Ben.

    I was so disappointed when it switched to Ben Gross’s POV so that we would develop sympathy for him. But it did work, so that definitely gives tips for how to make someone likable again:

    • have his parents completely abandon him. As he says, he’s Kevin in Home Alone, except his parents decide to stay in Paris.
    • have his self-centered girlfriend ditch him
    • show him being lonely
    • make him cry when someone is nice to him
    • have them work together as a team

    And Ben’s behavior improves, especially when he offers her a place to stay when she has a falling out with her mom. And that car drive! So, I definitely saw his appeal. And I was less impressed with Paxton when they did the homework assignment together and his slogan wasn’t very good. And of course, Paxton often ignored Devi.

    BUT I am still Team Paxton. And I can’t wait for Season 2 when presumably the love triangle tension will continue.

    Or maybe I am just Team Devi.

    The Antagonist

    In many ways, Devi is her own worst enemy, but she’s a brilliantly developed character. And her fraught relationship with her mother, masterfully revealed, propels the plot.

    Another takeaway is to give your character hard choices so that you test your character. I thought it was a tough choice when she has to choose between doing a favor for Paxton by modeling clothes for Paxton’s sister and being there for Eleanor. The right thing to do was to be there for Eleanor, but that’s not what she wanted to do.

    Let’s Talk

    Have you seen Never Have I Ever? I also love all the subplots (the mom’s, Kamala’s, Fabiola’s and Eleanor’s). What are your favorite scenes? Are you Team Paxton or Ben? And what romcom tips did you take away?

  • Define Your Comic Character

    My mom’s cat Meow Meow — who does not want to be bothered to be a blog star

    Remember to define your comic character’s wants, needs and fears.

    “Once you introduce the comic premise, you need to trust that the characters–their wants, needs and fears–will create more than enough action and plot to keep the narrative rolling along.”

    The Comic Hero’s Journey by Steve Kaplan at p. 68.

    Define Your Character Clearly such that the Reader/Viewer Knows the Character’s Reaction

    I attended a great family zoom presentation by Jonathan Aibel (Screenwriter, TROLLS, KUNG FU PANDA) and I asked him his advice for making a script funnier. He said (and I’m paraphrasing because my notes are messy) that usually it’s a matter of knowing your character and defining the character more clearly. And so, the comedy comes from knowing the character’s reaction.

    It was a family event, so, afterwards, my daughter said to me, like Monica in FRIENDS being a “neat freak.” As soon as the room is messy, you know Monica wants to clean it and she’s having a hard time controlling herself and not cleaning it. My daughter gave the example of the Friends episode “Ross with the Dirty Girl.” Ross tells Monica about a date he had with a very messy woman, and Monica can’t help herself; she goes over to the woman’s house and offers to clean. In that episode, Ross’s date with the woman is the comic set piece (so funny) and Monica’s coming over afterwards to clean it is the topper.

    Or if you think of Becky Bloomwood in Sophie Kinsella’s Shopaholic series, what will Becky do if she’s passing by a 70% sale on scarves, even though she’s late to a meeting?

    Create another Character who is the Opposite

    As discussed in previous posts, use comic opposites to highlight the differences. If you’ve defined your character, create another character who is the complete opposite. This will immediately introduce conflict. Sophie Kinsella created Becky’s sister, Jess, in Shopaholic & Sister. Jess is the complete opposite with respect to shopping. Jess is thrifty and doesn’t believe in the value of material goods. Sophie Kinsella uses Jess brilliantly again in Christmas Shopaholic to question Christmas commercialism:

    “As for presents, no, there is nothing I am ‘hankering after.’ Tom and I will be exchanging non-tangible gifts, in the spirit of creating a minimal footprint on our ravaged earth.

    If you can’t shake off the pressure to buy pointless items simply to follow tradition, could I suggest that they are sustainable, non-consumerist, locally sourced presents that reflect the true principles of fellowship rather than the hollow presents of shopping?”

    Looking forward to a festive day,

    Jess.”

    Christmas Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella at p.37

    In SHREK, the donkey is the comic sidekick who wants to befriend Shrek when Shrek thinks he doesn’t need friends. OR think Oscar and Felix in The Odd Couple (to go way back). In TROLLS, it’s dour Harry meets optimistic Sally again.

    Let’s Talk

    How are you doing? What is your favorite pairing of comic opposites? Do you have any summer beach read recommendations?

    Hoping you are doing well.

  • Comedy Writing Tip: What Can Go Wrong?

    My comedy writing tip is ask the question: What can go wrong? Brainstorm all the possibilities.

    Writing guru Jack M. Bickham says:

    “He must leave in worse shape than he was when he went in.”

    Scene & Structure by Jack M. Bickham at p. 27.

    And that’s perfect for creating comedy.

    The Out-of-Towners Movie Poster

    What can go wrong?

    I just watched THE OUT-OT-TOWNERS (1999), a movie with Goldie Hawn, Steve Martin and John Cleese. HIGHLY recommend. I laughed out loud at several points. John Cleese has some of the best lines.

    Goldie Hawn and Steve Martin are flying to New York where the Steve’s character has a job interview. What can go wrong when you are traveling? [SPOILER ALERT]

    • Your flight is diverted to another state and there are no other flights in time for your interview
    • You miss the train to New York
    • The car you rented is defective (or you just can’t figure out how to work it)
    • You can’t read the map so you get lost
    • A trickster mugs you when you arrive so you have no money

    And, all of those things are true-to-life and actual possibilities, but pile them on top of each other, and see how your character reacts. And there you’ve got your comedic plot.

    So, if you’re writing a dinner party scene, what can go wrong? Off the top of my head:

    • you burn the dinner
    • the food is inedible (Bridget Jones Diary, anyone?)
    • a drunken guest insults another guest
    • hidden history between guests comes out
    • a guest is allergic to the food, causing you to have to create another dish on the fly
    • the guests get food poisoning
    • the napkins bleed, staining something valuable
    • your pet throws up (retching noise in the background)
    • the neighbors upstairs throw a party, creating a lot of noise, stomping around upstairs.
    • fire alarm goes off, such that you all have to evacuate

    Some of these are obviously worse than others, but you can see how brainstorming what can go wrong can help build your plot.

    Comedy Writing Tip 2: A Flawed Protagonist Makes Bad Decisions

    As Evan Smith writes in this brilliant post, “comedy loves bad decisions.” “In many comedies, the lead character is their own worst enemy.” Id. Having the protagonist cause their problems starts their character arc.

    Let’s Talk

    Can you think of any more bad things that can happen at a dinner party? Or any party? Do you have any comedy writing tips?

    Hope you are all doing well and staying safe.

  • Tips for Writing the Comedy Set Piece

    Writing the Romantic Comedy in our guest chair

    Here are some tips for writing the comedy set piece. But first you may ask, what is the comedy set scene?

    “A set piece is an extended scene or sequence that exploits the setting or world of the movie to build from one joke or thrill to a series of same, climaxing in a satisfyingly big payoff topper.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit at p. 275.

    Billy Mernit writes that,

    “What a set piece has come to mean in movieland is the thing everyone talks about when they’ve seen the movie.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit at p. 276.

    Here are a list of tips:

    • Start with a Comic Premise,
    • Create the set piece as an “inspired collision between character and circumstance” (Id. at p. 276-277),
    • That forces an emotional turning point.
    • Most importantly, be HONEST (honestly emotional, vulnerable, true-to-life) in the set piece. The comedy will come from readers/viewers recognizing the truth of the scene. Like the scene in the new OVERBARD when the men are discussing married life in my prior post. Ok, it’s a bit exaggerated, which is part of creating comedy, but you get what I mean.

    START WITH A COMIC PREMISE

    The Internship – brilliant comic premise

    If you have a comic premise, the story writes itself. At least, that’s what Steve Kaplan says in his book The Comic Hero’s Journey, at p. 39. That makes sense. Think of SPY, with Melissa McCarthy and the comic potential in that premise (the desk-bound CIA analyst becomes the OO7 spy). At the very least, the comic premise should provoke ideas of funny scenes. Which may very well become our set scenes. But you only need start with the comic premise, according to Steve Kaplan. From there, you follow the character and do what the character would do. Don’t try to write funny scenes.

    “Once you introduce the comic premise, you need to trust that the characters–their wants, needs and fears will create more than enough action and plot to keep the narrative rolling along.”

    The Comic Hero’s Journey, by Steve Kaplan at p. 68.

    So I actually found that encouraging, because it is daunting to try to think of a “set piece.” Sometimes I have the inspiration for a funny scene, but sometimes I have to write the scene and find the humor.

    Another way to make it funnier is for everything to end in disaster. Which follows the basic writing advice of writing guru Jack Bickham: “He must leave in worse shape than he was when he went in.” Scene & Structure, by Jack M. Bickham, at p. 27.

    So here are some ways to think of comic premises:

    • Fish out of Water
    • Comic Opposites
    • Normal Character vs. Crazy Characters

    Fish Out of Water

    One of my favorite comedy movies is THE INTERNSHIP. That definitely uses the fish out of water trope. Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn sell watches, but nobody buys watches anymore now that they have phones. So they apply for a Google internship, successfully and are competing against tech-savvy young millennials for a shot at full-time employment. One of my favorite scenes is when they are interviewing for the Google internship–in the public library–and they are not tech-savvy. Here’s a clip of that scene.

    Comic Opposites

    According to John Vorhaus, ask “who could give this comic character the worst possible time?” The Comic Toolbox by John Vorhaus at p. 52.

    So, in BRINGING UP BABY, you have workaholic paleontologist Cary Grant paired with fun-loving, free-spirited socialite Katharine Hepburn. In the Odd Couple, you have neat Felix paired with messy Oscar. This creates the comic moments and the tension.

    Or WHEN HARRY MET SALLY. As Nora Ephron writes in the Introduction to the screenplay (it’s such a brilliant introduction with such much wisdom, I highly recommend reading it – I love Nora Ephron):

    “So I began with Harry, based on Rob. And because Harry was bleak and depressed, it followed absolutely that Sally would be cheerful and chirpy and relentlessly, pointlessly, unrealistically, idiotically optimistic. Which is, it turns out, very much like me. I’m not precisely chirpy, , but I am the sort of person who is fine, I’m just fine, everything’s fine.”

    When Harry Met Sally by Nora Ephron, at p. X.

    Normal Character vs. Comic Character

    Another comic set-up is a normal character vs. a comic character. See The Comic Toolbox by John Vorhaus at p. 24. “The gap between their personalities is the comic premise of the show.” Id. at 24. But note that the characters have an emotional bond. They care about each other.

    The Character vs. His World

    As noted above, Billy Mernit describes a set piece as an inspired collision between character and circumstance. This parallels Steve Kaplan’s advice that you have to be true to your character. But now, add your character’s world that you’ve created. Here’s Billy Mernit’s tips for creating set pieces:

    “consciously comb your story for potential set-piece situations. Explore the world you’ve created and see what’s there to tap into.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit at p. 279.

    I’m in the middle of watching PRIVATE BENJAMIN with Goldie Hawn, but the set pieces arise out of the obvious collision between pampered Goldie Hawn and the US Army world. My novels are all set in New York City, but I’ve still created my own NY world.

    Force An Emotional Turning Point

    Set pieces should force an emotional turning point. As Scott Myers writes, the set piece is tied to a plot point. In DESK SET, when she and Spencer Tracy are having dinner at her apartment and Gig Young shows up, it’s the first time Katharine Hepburn is not thrilled to see Gig Young. In ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE, Sasha realizes her boy friend Kevin is a jerk and goes home with Marcus.

    Let’s Talk: Do you have any tips for writing that comedy set piece?

    What are some of your favorite comedy scenes?

    I’d love to hear about what you find funny.

  • Tips for Creating the RomCom Protagonist

    Bridget Jones’s Diary

    Here are some tips for (and musings on) creating the RomCom protagonist and a comic character based on my reading and listening to various screenwriting experts. I’m hoping writing this post will help me clarify my thoughts further.

    So, the RomCom protagonist should be:

    • a NonHero/incomplete;
    • likable (my own take) or at least empathatic;
    • have a WANT that is the opposite of what they NEED;
    • complex;
    • obsessed with something – the WANT;
    • funny; and
    • trying very hard to obtain what they want.

    The Non-Hero

    Book Cover of the Comic Hero’s Journey in our guest chair today

    In Steve Kaplan’s The Comic Hero’s Journey, he writes that the comic hero is a nonhero. I highly recommend his book. It’s funny (as you will see from the quotes below). His book shows the difference between the Comic Hero’s journey and Vogler’s The Hero’s Journey:

    “your protagonist, the comic hero, does not have greatness within. Your protagonist is as far from greatness within as is humanly possible, . . . He wants a world of adventure like he wants a hole in the head. “

    The Comic Hero’s Journey by Steve Kaplan, at p.7.

    He writes:

    The whole point of the Normal World is to set up your protagonist for that eventual change. You might think that all you need to do is put your nice, normal hero in a crazy, fucked-up situation and see how it all shakes out. Well, don’t.

    The Comic Hero’s Journey by Steve Kaplan, at p.7.

    Steve Kaplan uses GROUNDHOG DAY as his example. In the original screen play, the protagonist was just a nice guy. But in the re-write, he became an asshole. The comic hero needs to be shaken out of his rut. And if the comic hero is perfect, then why are all these horrible things happening to him? You need a reason for why you’re shaking him/her out of his/her dismal situation (which, by the way, the protagonist thinks is fine). Id. at p.8.

    So, start with a nonhero character living in a problematic ordinary world. But we still need readers/viewers to like our character.

    Billy Mernit’s Tips for Creating a RomCom Protagonist

    Writing the Romantic Comedy in our hot seat

    As I wrote in my previous post, Billy Mernit provides four keys to characterization: “purpose, credibility, empathy and complexity.” Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit at p. 112.

    Protagonists have to have a purpose (a want) and that want for that character has to be credible. So, Mernit gives the example of Dustin Hoffman in TOOTSIE who wants to be a working actor; the film montage shows us that he is a good actor. Protagonists also have to make us feel empathy for them (maybe because they’re being rejected and we’ve all been rejected)); and they have to be complex (more on that below).

    According to Mernit, one way to create empathy is to show the protagonist’s fervent passion to accomplish his goal. If you show a character repeatedly trying to succeed and getting knocked down (comic potential there), but then getting up again, you will not only build empathy for your character, you will have action in your scenes that mix plot and character.

    Likable or Complex or Both?

    You have a choice to make your character likable or complex or both.

    Billy Mernit and Tess Morris in the “You Had Us at Hello” Podcast #4 have a really interesting perspective on this. They note that women characters have been able to be less “likable” lately, if you look at Kristin Wiig in BRIDESMAIDS or the characters in the TV show Girls.

    Frankly, I still want to create a likable, but flawed, complex comic character. because if I don’t like the character, then I am not willing to invest my time reading the book.

    But, in Sushi for Beginners by Marian Keyes, I was impressed that one of her protagonists, Lisa Edwards, is not very likable, and yet I felt empathy for her. How does Keyes create that empathy? Lisa works very hard, sacrificing everything, and instead of getting the promotion she expects, is shipped off to Ireland to start up a new magazine with limited resources. And she is complex. But Keyes also has a likable protagonist in that same book, so that’s another approach, to have two protagonists, one likable and one unlikable. But I digress.

    And most of my favorite RomCom characters are likable: Sally in When Harry Met Sally, Annie Hall, Bridget Jones, etc. Or to look at characters in books: Samantha Sweeting in the Undomestic Goddess, Becky Bloomwood in the Shopaholic series, Melissa Romney-Jones in The Little Lady Agency series. But they are also complex. Sally is optimistic but likes control. Annie Hall is Annie Hall. Samantha Sweeting is a brilliant lawyer, but unable to do any domestic tasks. Becky can’t stop spending, but gives advice on saving money. Melissa who is a “nice girl” in real life, but “add a satin corset, and some serious red lipstick, and I’m Honey Blennerhesket, bootylicious troubleshooter for London’t hapless bachelors and chaps generally in need of a woman’s multitasking mind.” The Little Lady Agency and the Prince, by Hester Browne at p.1. They are all also funny.

    Why Complex?

    But why complex? As Billy Mernit writes,

    “Complex characters who have contradictions and quirks keep us interested as long as they’re credible.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit, at p. 117.

    Robert McKee said in his online webinar on “Building a Character” that characters don’t need to be likable, they need to be “compelling,” which translates to “complicated. “

    Billy Mernit then circles back to wants vs. needs as one of the keys to creating complexity.

    Needs are at the core of a given character’s point of view, and in a story, more often than not, an internal conflict is what drives, and complicates the character’s external conflict. Generally speaking, when we’re tracking a characters’s arc in the story, we’re tracking how confronting and ultimately resolving their inner issue helps that character achieve their exterior goal.”

    Writing the Romantic Comedy, by Billy Mernit, at p. 118.

    The internal issue usually comes from the character’s backstory. This backstory fuels the internal conflict of your protagonist and raises the tension.

    Want/Need

    One way to make them complex is to make sure that what they WANT is the opposite of what they NEED. Then you have built in CONFLICT.

    In GROUNDHOG DAY, he wants to be promoted to a bigger news station in a bigger market. What he needs, however, is to form relationships and to be a better person.

    This dovetails with Steve Kaplan’s advice that the initial goal of a comic protagonist is an outer goal that is the WRONG goal, and so the goal changes as the character changes along the character arc. As Kaplan writes,

    “These initial goals are usually selfish and shortsighted and usually not addressing their inner needs.”

    The Comic Hero’s Journey, by Steve Kaplan at p. 10

    As Steve Kaplan writes, Discovered Goals will replace these Initial Goals as the characters transform. So figure out your character’s want and need, and show how their goal changes from the Initial Goal to the Discovered Goal.

    Give Them An Obsession

    Finally, according to McKee, “the comic character is marked by a blind obsession.” Story by Robert McKee, at p. 382. So, in his example, in A FISH CALLED WANDA, Wanda’s obsession is men who speak foreign languages. This leads to that funny scene where Kevin Kline is saying Italian words (“parmigiani . . . ) to her (but doesn’t actually know how to speak Italian), the clip available here.

    In Sophie Kinsella’s Shopaholic series, she is obsessed with shopping. Which leads to all sorts of hysterical complications as well as tension–at least, when I read Shopaholic, I was like, please, please stop shopping!

    Let’s Talk

    What are your thoughts on creating the RomCom protagonist? Who are your favorite romantic comedy protagonists and why?

    And no idea what week it is in lockdown. I feel like I’m living the movie Groundhog Day–the homeschooling version, except that I’m not learning piano or working out (I wish!); I’m just trying to get through each day of homeschooling, cooking and writing.

    Hoping you are all doing as well as can be!

  • My Favorite Romantic Comedies


    Here are some of my favorite romantic comedies (in alphabetical order).

    ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE

    I highly recommend this film. The dialogue is smart and witty. I loved the relationships between all the characters.

    See my post about how the wrong guy/girl in ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE propels the plot.

    BABY BOOM

    I love Diane Keaton. And Baby Boom has many empowering themes. The set-up is well done, showing how her relationship is lacking with her current boyfriend, the competitive atmosphere at the office, and how she has clipped this newspaper ad for this farmhouse in Maine. There’s the back-stabbing male colleague, her attempt at diapering the baby, her buying the falling-down farmhouse and building up her baby food business. And there is sizzling chemistry between Diane Keaton and Sam Shepard.

    BRIDGET JONES’S DIARY

    Love, love, love! I love her character and her friends, the chemistry with Hugh Grant and with Colin Firth sizzles, and the the triangle is brilliantly done. Brilliant dialogue. I think it’s so brilliantly based on Pride and Prejudice. Love everything about this movie. It’s a classic!

    CLUELESS

    Another classic. Based on Jane Austen’s Emma. Memorable dialogue! Some of my favorite movie lines ever.

    “Whenever a boy comes, you should always have something cooking.”

    “Ugh. As if.”

    And so many more!

    DESK SET

    See my post about how the wrong guy leads to a set piece.

    I love Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy. One of my favorite scenes is their first lunch where she shows how intelligent she is and he is impressed, calling her a rare bird. And then the scene were Gig Young (her current “boyfriend”) shows up to find her having a cozy dinner with Spencer Tracy.

    This screenplay was written by the parents of Nora Ephron.

    HOW TO LOSE A GUY IN 10 DAYS

    How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

    Brilliant and funny premise. She has to write a women’s magazine article about how to lose a guy in 10 days and he has 10 days to persuade her to fall in love with him so he can win the right to pitch an advertising campaign about diamonds. So many laugh-out-loud scenes. Smoking hot chemistry. One of my favorite movies!

    LOVE JONES

    Love Jones movie poster

    Described on the DVD cover as a “hip When Harry Met Sally.” A photographer and a writer get together, break up, get together again, and I won’t ruin the rest of the movie. The dialogue is meaningful and the friendships among this set of artistic friends are warm and supportive. And the soundtrack sets the mood! But note, it’s more of a romance than a romantic comedy.

    MAN UP

    Snappy dialogue, great premise, great comedic set scenes. He’s supposed to meet a blind date under the clock who is reading a certain book. He mistakes her for his blind date and she goes along with that. So, there’s the “scam” set-up.

    MIRACLE ON 34th STREET

    I like to watch this every Christmas. It’s about a divorcee who doesn’t believe in Santa Claus and doesn’t believe in imagination/love, so the neighbor next door tries to persuade her to give love a second chance and Santa Claus tries to persuade her little girl that he is Santa Claus. I like the career woman plot and the Santa Claus on trial plot. That trial scene is one of my favorite movie scenes.

    OVERBOARD

    Great chemistry, great premise, great comedy, great comedic set scenes, Goldie Hawn. Need I say more?

    I also wrote a blog post on the new Overboard. Although it’s not as good as this one, it’s not bad. And it has some funny scenes in its own right.

    TWO WEEKS NOTICE

    Two Weeks Notice movie poster

    Sandra Bullock and Hugh Grant. They are both such talented comedic actors. A dedicated environmental lawyer agrees to work for billionaire real estate developer Hugh Grant if he agrees to preserve her local community center. The movie opens with Sandra Bullock trying to stop the destruction of the community center with her own body. Way to start with action.

    WHEN HARRY MET SALLY

    Movie poster from When Harry Met Sally

    Nora Ephron (writer) is one of my idols. With Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal. On-point dialogue and one of my favorite films exploring male/female friendship and dating. Another must-see classic.

    Let’s Talk: Favorite Romcoms?

    What are some of your favorite romantic comedies? I am looking for some more romantic comedies to watch at night while #stayinghome, so I would love any suggestions. Why are those your favorites? Even as I write this, I can think of more favorites. It’s so hard to choose!

  • Writing the Romantic Comedy

    Writing the Romantic Comedy is in our guest seat today

    If you like watching romantic comedies or are writing a romcom, then Writing the Romantic Comedy by Billy Mernit should be your Go-To Book. It is a lot of fun to read and full of craft advice and knowledge.

    If you like watching romcoms, then it’s like a friendly, witty conversation with the expert, Billy Mernit. He also has a blog. And he lists romantic comedies, so you can find some you may not have seen. I just watched the movie MAN UP (discussed in the book) and it’s BRILLIANT.

    If you are planning on writing a romcom, then it’s like taking a class on how to write one. Here are my three takeaways from his book, but really, you need to read the whole book! The whole book is brilliant and has so many tips for comedy and for writing.

    • Character Chemistry
    • Supporting Characters Create Conflict
    • The Romantic Comedy Plot Beats

    He also added so much great additional stuff in this new updated version, particularly with how to write comedy.

    Character Chemistry

    Billy Mernit lists four keys to characterization: purpose, credibility, empathy and complexity. (Writing the Romantic Comedy, at p. 112). He uses Tootsie as an example to explain each of these concepts. I plan to do a longer post to delve into the comic character.

    Supporting Characters Create Conflict

    One of my main takeaways from Writing the Romantic Comedy was how supporting characters should create conflict for the main character and “force him to confront his issues.” (Id. at 145). My earlier post went into more detail about this.

    The Romantic Comedy Plot Beats

    The new edition of Writing the Romantic Comedy now has 8 beats (the first edition had 7 beats). I have taken two classes that cited these beats (one online class by Alyssa Cole and one class by Fiona Harper at the RNA Conference in Leeds), so I am not the only writer recommending this structure.

    And the RomCom plot beats are:

    • The Chemical Equation: Set-Up (show what is missing in the protagonist)
    • The Meet-Cute Meet: Catalyst
    • A Sexy Complication: Turning Point
    • The Hook: Midpoint (raises the stakes of their relationship)
    • Swivel: Second Turning Point (“stakes reach their highest point as the romantic relationship’s importance jeopardizes the protagonist’s . . . goal” (Id. at p. 198)
    • The Dark Moment: Crisis
    • Climax: a Fight or Flight
    • Joyful Defeat: Resolution

    Billy Mernit shows how these beats work using NOTTING HILL and CRAZY RICH ASIANS as examples. He recommends watching a romantic comedy and finding these beats.

    The Romantic Comedy Beats in The UnDomestic Goddess

    I thought I’d try applying these beats to a novel The Undomestic Goddess by Sophie Kinsella. This is one of my favorite novels, probably because I’m a recovering workaholic lawyer who identifies with the protagonist Samantha (a workaholic lawyer). I love Sophie Kinsella books. Since I am trying to write a romcom, it’s worth studying her books, even if they don’t fit this movie structure exactly. The book is more focused on the protagonist’s journey, so the romance plot is a sub-plot. Again SPOILERS. I highly recommend reading the book if you haven’t already. It’s a very funny book and good for this quarantine period.

    So here are the beats (I think):

    The Set-Up: the Chemical Equation:

    Samantha is a workaholic lawyer trying to make partner and who has no outside life. She has a birthday dinner and her family members cancel on her because of work and so she is just left holding phones talking to her at the table.

    The Meet-Cute (the Catalyst):

    Samantha misses a deadline to register a loan, causing a fifty million loss to her client. and walks out of the law firm in shock. She knocks on the door of a house to procure aspirin and the owner thinks she is from the housekeeper agency. Romance Meet-Cute: As she drinks a glass of her client’s wine, she feels a prickly sensation and meets the gardener of the house, Nathaniel. He says he heard she trained as a Cordon Bleu chef (she said that while she was interviewing for the job), and asks her what kind of vegetables she will want. He is suspicious when she doesn’t know the difference between various types of vegetables.

    First Turning Point:

    She is fired from her law firm and she decides to stay as their housekeeper. Romance Turning Point: She is trying to cook a dinner for the family, when she has no idea how to cook, and panicking as everything is exploding. Nathaniel comes in and confronts her, accusing her of exploiting her employers since she clearly can’t cook. She admits that she is on the run from “a situation” and she can’t cook. Then she saves herself from the cooking disaster (she tells her employers the meal was inedible and not up to her standards so she threw it out because she didn’t have the right equipment) and stays as their housekeeper.

    Midpoint (the Hook):

    Nathaniel’s mom gives Samantha a cooking lesson where she has to experience the flavors; she can’t just take notes. And the atmosphere is relaxed and enjoyable. Romance turning point: They plan a date.

    Second Turning Point (the Swivel):

    Samantha figures out that she was set up to take the fall for that mistake. She didn’t make the mistake. Romance Turning Point: Nathaniel and Samantha start dating. She also finds out that Nathaniel hates lawyers, so she doesn’t tell him teh truth that she is a lawyer. but dating him gets her farther from her goal of returning to law.

    Crisis (the Dark Moment):

    Samantha poses as a cocktail waitress to enter the firm and confront the partner who set her up, but she gets kicked out of the firm. Romance Crisis: she decides to go back to her law firm job. They break up.

    Climax (Fight or Flight):

    Samantha approaches one senior partner and tells him her theory that she was set up. He researches it and she’s right. She is offered a full equity partnership. Romance Fight or Flight: She realizes she doesn’t want to return to her law firm job while on the train with the law firm partners. She turns down the job again and gets out of the train to find a train going back. Then she sees Nathaniel seated on the train to London.

    Resolution

    Samantha and Nathaniel get back together and she realizes can “do anything. Be anyone.”

    Let’s Talk

    Have you read Writing the Romantic Comedy or The UnDomestic Goddess? What did you think?

    On a personal note, we are on Day 25 in our NYC apartment. We are fine, but I cry when I read the news. I am so grateful to all the essential workers and I worry for them. At night, I try to watch or read a romcom to keep my spirits up. And I highly recommend watching Some Good News.

    I hope you are #stayinghome #savinglives #flatteningthecurve.

    And I did learn to use my tiny sewing machine and sew masks! Pretty good for a workaholic lawyer who didn’t know how to sew.

    Thanks for reading.